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Friday 5 April 2013
Fragile Friendships
Friendship... Popularity... Relationships...
Whatever you call them, they are fragile and a massive problem for absolutely anyone! But they are some of the most important things in life! I value my friends so much in my life, and I can't bear it when I lose one or they seem upset with me for some reason. So how do you turn these into... well... positives... Unfortunately, you can't. So how do you cope?
1. Losing one
If you lose a friend without meaning to, ask them if they forgive you... they may not, and the fact is you may have to agree with it. The best thing to do is ask them why they are no longer your friend and inform them you never meant to upset them. They may still not forgive you, so give them time to process the information. Hopefully, overtime, they will understand that it was never intentional... Unfortunately they may not... and you just need to move on in life... This is really hard, and I know this from past experience, so if you need to talk to someone, do... if you need to replace them, do... If you need to write a song (That's what I do), do.
2. Are they upset with me?
Best thing to do here: Ask them. They may be un-cooperative, but that doesn't necessarily mean they are upset with you... It could be they have a lot going on in life currently. This happened to me recently, where I was worried that I had upset one of my Best Friends... I tried to contact them over Facebook but got no reply. I then saw them the other day, and I felt it safe not to bring up the subject. It then turned out their Grandfather was in hospital. Another solution is to talk to someone you trust; Friend, Teacher, Parent or Sibling... They may know or have theories to put your mind at rest.
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